Goodbye Hafsatu Yusuf, Kano mother 15 times over (2)

We should let HAFSATU YUSUF go now, to help her to not look back and become earth bound. What we can do to help her, I will mention soon. Many persons do not find it easy to depart the flesh. If they have managed to seperate from their earthly bodies, they may not be able to move away from it if earthly matters still bother them and weigh them down. They are leaving one part of the world for another, and what belongs to the old ought to be done away with. However, without understanding and help, it is easier said than done. Departure is often in a state of confusion, fear and despair. The departing  knows he or she exists, but cannot understand why persons he or she has just left behind cannot see, hear, or feel his or her touch. He or she tried to tell them that he or she is still alive. As this wish can be carried out through instrumentality of the brain which has been discarded with the body, the departing one is drawn back into the body, often to experience its decay. They may have become too strongly attached to earthly matters, despite their transition, that the ethereal chord which connected them with the discarded earthly body may have become too dense and inelastic and makes them unable to easily move away and turn their backs on our part of the world. The ethereal chord resembles the umbilical chord which connects a foetus or baby growing in the womb to a pregnant mother’s body. Being unable to seperate from the dead or discarded earthly body from which one has seperated suggests an attachment in spirit to the earth when the bigger world beyond the earth is waiting to receive the one whose time here had been phased out.

I have been trying to imagine the state in which Hafsatu   Yusuf could have been in those delicate moments when she had to seperate from her dying body, and now after that seperation. As reported in this column last week, her last moments on earth should be very touching to everyone who has not banished the thoughts someday of earthly deaths from His or her perceptions. Hafsatu Yusuf, as we should recall, was in a labour room to be delivered of triplets as several scans had suggested. Her husband, Malam Salisu Nafiu indeed prepared for triplets. They were to be additions to nine of ten survivors of their older children. In other words, Hafsatu Yusuf would have been delivered of the 12th child, eleven of them surviving, all things being equal. But, then, man only proposes, for the scan reports did not cite two more babies hidden somewhere in her womb. By the time the last of the quintuplets had been delivered of her, to make her a mother of 15 children with only one mortality, Hafsatu Yusuf began to bleed. The hospital could not stop the bleeding. So much was the bleeding that she called her husband to her bed side and told him she did not think she could survive the heavy blood losses and that he should take good care of their children when she was gone.

I have witnessed two of such scenarios. In one, the woman suffered from breast cancer. I sometimes visited her at home to give her encouragement, especially anytime her doctor prescribed blood transfusion. Her two children, aged between two years and five, would be falling all over her, playing with her, oblivious of the odour which hung around their mother and made their sitting-room stuffy. One day, she may have heard the premonition that she was going. She called her husband to her side and made him promise that he would take care of their children the way she would. I shook within me. What was the poor man expected to say? I doubted if he knew the implications of the question and the answer he gave. For he promised her that he would do her wishes. I looked at him from the corners of my eyes. He was probably in His thirties or early forties. I saw the possibility of this man remarrying and of the possibility of his new home not as hospitable as it would have been as a home with his wife who was now departing. I imagine if his departing wife would not feel betrayed when she got to the other side. What she would do thereafter, I could not imagine. Could the possible suffering of her children in the hands of another woman not make her earthbound? Could her despondency over that not form a consuming dark cloud around her betraying husband?

My second such experience was with a couple who had not had a child. They were from Akwa Ibom State and lived in Ajah, Lagos. The husband did small businesses around the city. She was a supervisor of porters at the Murtala Mohammed Airport in Lagos. Her breast cancer smelled badly and produced a lot of fluid which often wet her bra and blouse. She would stop over at my illupeju office on her way to work to clean up and to obtain supporting plant medicines. She tried many, including Aloe first, an Aloe vera based spray which heals wounds and prevents scarring. It helped significantly but not completely, to the point that she may not need an extra dressing during night shifts or have soiled bra and blouse, especially when Aloe first suffused the cotton wool wrap over the breast wound. One day, she told me some persons suggested to her that the tumour could be regressed if she extracted Aloe vera leaf gel in a spirit drink like seaman’s aromatic schinapps. She knew I had aloes aged about ten years in my flower garden at home, and requested for some. I told her I did not believe in that recipe from all the literature which suggested spirits could aggravate the condition. May be, today, I will be more disposed to proprietary products such as Thorntina 74, jigsimur and Rejuvenating Drink. They all have no alcohol in them and present plant substances known to inhibit the growth of tumours, including cancers. Jigsimur is made from Aloe vera and preserved with citric acid from limes. Hardly can any germ survive in a citric acid environment when Aloe vera gel is combined with citric acid, they make the survival rate of germs very low. I have heard several stories that this combination regresses uterine fibroids. Breast cancer and uterine fibroids have a prevalence of bacteria, viruses and fungi. Three doctors, infact, wrote a book about breast cancer which they titled Cancer is a fungus. Now in vogue for uterine fibroids is a juice which can be made at home. It combines Aloe vera gel with lime juice and grated immature papaya (pawpaw) fruit and seeds. Papaya supplies proteolytic enzymes which digests proteins which are foreign to the body or are abnormal nuisance to it, such as cancer cells.

Apologies for the digression.

I remember Uduak very intensely as I write that I cannot help writing about her as I am doing. Uduak thought I did not wish to help her, and said so on mistaken terms.

So, one day, I brought a load of Aloe vera gel leaf to the office and she came for it.

When she began to take this medicine, the suppuration of her breast cancer increased and the number of dressings and redressings also grew. She began to lose weight. The aromatic spirit may have been drying her up. It may also have been drying up or shrinking the cancer. My assumption, which I told her about, was that the cancer may have been becoming more aggressive.

One day, she telephoned her husband who was out of their home on his daily business. She asked him to return home urgently. He asked if anything was amiss. She told him nothing was , that she only wanted to see him urgently. The dutiful man promptly returned home. She asked him to sit beside her and hold her hand. He did, becoming nervous. She asked him if he loved her. He asked in return what kind of question that was. If he did not love her, would they be going through her ordeal together? he asked. Satisfied that he loved her, she asked him to express it in a typical lover’s words...I love you. When he said that, she leaned on him as though to acknowledge promise and assurance of his love. Before you could call Jack Robinson, she breathed heavily on him. It was her last breath. She departed.

To me, again, that was a serious promise Uduak’s husband made to her as she was dying. He called me immediately, and I asked him to take the body to the hospital, inform their relations back home in Uyo, get their local church in Ajah to arrange a wake keep and take the body back home to Akwa Ibom for interrment. The bottom line of this scenario was whether Uduak expected her young husband to not remarry and say those sacred words to another woman. If he breached that trust and promise, would it affect her on the other side until she may have overgrown possesiveness to recognise that no man owns any wife or any other woman or any child and that no woman has such an ownership right as well, that everyone belongs to only the Almighty Creator and Ruler of all the worlds.

Hafsatu Yusuf

Back to Hafsatu Yusuf. No-one can speculate on where she is now and how she is fairing. We can only make assumptions about what happened to departing or departed persons who may not have had some ideas of, and grip on, what happened when body and soul seperate. If the departing inclines more to the earthly, such as worrying over husband and children in this case, or property, political power or office in others, the tendency is for a complete severance to be difficult and for the soul to remain annexed to the body. This could be a dreadful experience brought about by attempts to communicate with persons who are sorrowful over one’s departure, persons the departing soul is seeing and hearing because of the unsevered connection between body and soul, persons who cannot see or hear the departing or feel his or her touch.

The case is different with persons who did not believe that would continue to live after the death of their earth bodies. Such persons do not even recognise they have ethereal bodies within their earth bodies which their souls would use to experience ethereal life on the other side. In such persons, such ethereal bodies are not sensitive here. Such souls may be blind, deaf and dumb on the other side until their perceptions change and, like babies on earth, they gradually learn to develop their ethereal senses. This may take years, decades or even centuries! In the conclusion of this column, I suggest the measures every one who is touched by the story of Hafsatu Yusuf can take to strip her of the worries of the earth wherever she is, support her adjustment to a new life on the other side. I have been wondering about how easy it would be for her alone, as a woman so seriously bonded to the maternal instinct, to remove earthly matters from her focus...and move on.

We should not find it difficult to appreciate this. We have just experienced another Ramadan and another Easter. Prophet Mohammed (May the Peace of Allah be upon him wherever he is) did not meet in the flesh body with His teachers and guides. Nor was it in the flesh that he received the pure teaching he bequeathed to humanity, as a forerunner to the greatest of all events in which we stand today, sometimes ignorant, often even perplexed, perhaps even unable to read and interprete aright overwhelming “World” (not earthly but the entire Creation) foretold long, long ago.

And easter? The Ascension at Pentecost, like the events in the Upper Chamber and the Transfiguration are filled with lessons for the human spirit that is astir.

Hafsatu Yusuf’s death reminds us we, too, would depart the flesh someday. What recipes for that time have we to prepare our inner being for it and keep our earth bodies in wholesome health? The ascension teaches us we would not remain in graves till a judgement day as some christian teachings say. So did the appearance of Moses and Elijah with the Lord Jesus at his transfiguration.

Questions and answers.

Some of the questions asked in the first part of this 2-part series, have been answered. In one of the pending questions, I wondered about the type of man Hafsatu Yusuf’s husband could be that he could not be on holiday in a bedroom. The question partially answered itself in the expression which followed...That women’s bodies provide solace and refuge for recuperation to men’s bodies which come under battery from everyday’s toil to bring some money back home. With nine children to look after before five more arrived in a fell swoop, Malam Salisu Nasiu, a tricycle taxi rider, must have been over- driving himself to pulp to bring money home. May he not be seen as a faithful husband? A man like him may hardly have time for other women. Can’t something be done to moderate the sex overdrive of men? Yes, a lot can be done. It is already known that excessive consumption of red meat overstimulates men. A woman may substitute white meat and organic poultry for red meat. Any herb or plant based medicine which reduces testosterone levels in men will curtail their sexual appetite. Some of them are believed to be licorice root, spearmint, chasteberry, vitex and white peony.

Why was Hafsatu Yusuf so fertile?

We have an answer in the triology configuration of the earth man and earth woman. Mam is a human spirit from the spiritual spheres of existence. On the way to the earth, the human spirit took up the body or covering of every sphere of existence it journeyed through. Together with these coverings, the spirit seed germ or ego is called the soul. On earth, the soul adorns an earth body to be visible and to work there. In this garb, the soul becomes the earth man or earth woman. The content or nature of the spirit never changes, but the form of the soul may change depending on the nature of activities it is drawn to, masculinity or feminity. If a female soul adopts masculinity, that is rough physical activities for which the male spirit and soul are made, the female soul will have her form altered to a male’s. Thus, inwardly, she would be becoming rough like a male soul, while outwardly she may remain a female form which may be imperceptibly losing its womanliness. With no inward female potential to maintain its energy, such women, Mrs. Elizabeth Kafaru always almost found little or no pulsations when she tested their solar plexus region for them. The solar plexus region pulsation is not, surprisingly, inept because it is in this region that the soul is connected with the earthly body with an unseen Silver Cord like the Umbilical Cord. In such women, several gynaecological problems occur. They may include, but are not limited to habitual miscarriages, difficult conceptions, pre term births, ovulation questions, menstrual problems, barreness etc. Watch women who perceptibly or otherwise are migrating to men’s pole, and you are likely to find these features abundantly among them.

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Was Hafsatu Yusuf born to become a woman who would be a baby machine?

No. that would be a surrendering of the primary purpose of her existence as a woman to the Maternal Instinct which is the highest goal of the Animal, not the Human spiritual specie. With her body derived from the animal body, for which the human specie is often erroneously seen by some persons as a “higher animal” specie, the human female specie may express the maternal instinct but not to the point of becoming its slave and surrendering her primary spiritual calling to it. The primary calling is Spiritual and it is for this reason that even her earthly body is configured loser than man’s. This permits easier and speedier connection than man can achieve with Divine Currents. This is for the purpose of being the receiver of Guidance from helpers and Guides in their spiritual home Paradise and passing them to man to work with so that, by now, the kingdom of God on earth should have become a reality.

As we bid Hafsatu Yusuf bye, please let us not forget the 14 children she left behind. The government of Kano State has done well by adopting the quintuplets. It may do better by setting up a fund in her name to which all Nigerians may regularly make their widow’s mite contributions for the upkeep of these children. Who knows...This may be a spring board for helping other needy persons under a Non-Governmental Organisation (NGO) to be called...KANO CARES, for example.